Before you start the conversation, make sure it's someone you'd really like to befriend. Someone that fits your standards. Then the rest can follow.

Start with a hello and be honest with what you want and will offer to that person/friendship.

This is the simplest way. Cause some people might not be open to new friendships so you'll know early on about it.

Also to not judge you just over the surface, you might offer something important and meaningful like your loyalty and care. So they might give you a chance.

So just be honest to the person you want to befriend and lay out your intentions to them. Just be sure to not force it and move on if that person doesn't want to be friends.

If Person A, your close friend, recommends Person B to be your friend. It doesn't mean you should automatically accept that friendship and nurture it.

It is very important for you, to personally verify if this person is worth being close friends with and also measure them up against your standards.

Now before I go, let me share something deeply meaningful about friendships which is that Real friendships are not just connections, they are covenants.

A covenant is a sacred, binding agreement between two parties often sealed with promises and conditions.

Friendships are covenants of faithfulness and loyalty. So when you look at it from this perspective you will understand how beautiful it is, how small circles and high standards matter.

I'm going to use David and Jonathan in the bible as examples for this.

David and Jonathan had the most beautiful, deepest and holy friendship ever narrated and we can learn so much from them.

First off, friendships are covenants of faithfulness based on love. As you can see in this verse: "ዮናታን እንደ ራሱ አድርጎ ስለ ወደደው፣ ከዳዊት ጋር ኪዳን አደረገ"
— 1 ሳሙኤል 18:3

Second, friendships aren't just physical or conversational connections. They are bondages of soul. This is exactly why you should choose who you become friends with. As this verse states: "የዮናታን ነፍስ ከዳዊት ነፍስ ጋር ተቈራኘች፤ እንደ ራሱም አድርጎ ወደደው።" — 1 ሳሙኤል 18:1

Finally, what is the point of your friendships if they don't mature to this depth. If it doesn't mature into brotherhood what is the point? The goal is to have friends where you can confidently say this about: "ወንድሜ ዮናታን ሆይ፤ እኔ ስለ አንተ ዐዘንሁ፤ አንተ ለእኔ እጅግ ውድ ነበርህ፤ ፍቅርህ ለእኔ ድንቅ ነበረ፤ ከሴት ፍቅርም ይልቅ ግሩም ነበር።" — 2 ሳሙኤል 1:26

In David's and Jonathan's friendship, they both upheld their covenants. Jonathan was faithful until his death and after Jonathan's death, David would bring Jonathan's crippled son into his kingdom, and even sat him beside the table where he dined at. Thereby upholding his covenant even after death.

Isn't this so beautiful??!!!

Now the most important thing.

Humans are imperfect and you have to understand that people will hurt you in one way or another. Even the best friendships and relationships will affect you. You can't escape the hurt.

But there is one who will never hurt you, one who will offer you his friendship, who will always be faithful and loving to you, who has died for you, one who will always want the best for you, someone better than Jonathan, closer than your family, more entwined than your wife.

This person, is one whose friendship is sweeter than a girl's love, sacrificial than a mother's care, protective than a father's arms, deeper than any experience, closer than anything in existence and one that is everlasting.

This friendship is the one offered to you by God. That is why Jesus says "I have called you friends" in John 15:13

When you know that friendships are covenants, you'll understand why God made and kept his covenants with us. 😭

God, a true friend.

I'm glad and I hope everything God has taught me, will also help you in your friendships.

“አብርሃም በእግዚአብሔር አመነ፤ ጽድቅም ሆኖ ተቈጠረለት” የሚለው የመጽሐፍ ቃል ተፈጸመ፤ እርሱም የእግዚአብሔር ወዳጅ ተባለ።"
— ያዕቆብ 2:23

መዝሙር 133:1-3

"ወንድሞች ተስማምተው በአንድነት ሲኖሩ፣ እንዴት መልካም ነው! ምንኛስ ደስ ያሰኛል!

በራስ ላይ ፈስሶ፣ እስከ ጢም እንደሚዘልቅ፣ እስከ አሮን ጢም እንደሚወርድ፣ እስከ ልብሱም ዐንገትጌ እንደሚደርስ ውድ ሽቱ ነው።

ደግሞም በጽዮን ተራራ ላይ እንደሚወርድ፣ እንደ አርሞንዔም ጠል ነው፤ በዚያ እግዚአብሔር በረከቱን፣ ሕይወትንም እስከ ዘላለም አዝዟልና።"

What's up Indomies :)

lol, did you just blushh?!

Adorbs <3

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