أيها الشاب إن الله خبير بك،،، عارفك بحالك فقد قال في كتابه: ﴿وخلق الإنسان ضعيفا﴾ وفسرت هذه الآية بأنه ضعيف في أمر النساء قال طاوس : إذا نظر إلى النساء لم يصبر.
وسُئِلَ الإمام سفيان الثوري عَنْ هذه الآية : مَا ضَعْفُهُ؟ قَالَ: «الْمَرْأَةُ تَمُرُّ بِالرَّجُلِ فَلَا يَمْلِكُ نَفْسَهُ عَنِ النَّظَرِ إِلَيْهَا، وَلَا هُوَ يَنْتَفِعُ بِهَا، فَأَيُّ شَيْءٍ أَضْعَفُ مِنْ هَذَا؟».
وقال سعيد بن جبير ﵀: لئن أؤتمن على بيت من الدر، أحب إلي من أن أؤتمن على امرأة حسناء.
وقال حسّان بن عطِية ﵀: ما أتِيتْ أُمّةٌ قط
إلاّ من قِبَل نسائهم.

إن النّظر سهم من سِهَام إِبْلِيس فَمن تَركه من خوف الله آتَاهُ الله إِيمَانًا يجد حلاوته فِي قلبه.
وحُرّم النظر لما يلحق مطلقه من عظيم الضرر فزنا العين يؤدي إلى القرب من الفاحشة وهي زنا الفرج ومن لم يقدر على غض بصره لم يقدر على حفظ فرجه!
ومتى أسرتِ الشهوةُ والهوى القلبَ تمكَّن منه عدوُّه، وسامَه سوءَ العذَاب، وصارَ :
كعُصفورةٍ في كفِّ طفلٍ يَسومُها ... حياضَ الرَّدَى والطِّفلُ يَلْهُو ويَلْعَبُ

والحل إجافة باب الفتنة بغض الأبصار وهذا الإمام الجليل قال: كنت عند سفيان الثوري رحمه الله جاءته امرأة فقالت: إنِّي أريد أن أسألك عن شيء، فقال لها: أجيفي الباب ثم تكلّمي من وراء الباب.
خشية الفتنة بها!!.

قال الله تعالى : ﴿قُل لِّلۡمُؤۡمِنِینَ یَغُضُّوا۟ مِنۡ أَبۡصَـٰرِهِمۡ وَیَحۡفَظُوا۟ فُرُوجَهُمۡۚ ذَ ٰ⁠لِكَ أَزۡكَىٰ لَهُمۡۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ خَبِیرُۢ بِمَا یَصۡنَعُونَ﴾
ثم أمر المؤمنات فقال ﴿وَقُل لِّلۡمُؤۡمِنَـٰتِ یَغۡضُضۡنَ مِنۡ أَبۡصَـٰرِهِنَّ وَیَحۡفَظۡنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ)

وختم هذه الآيات بقوله : ( وَتُوبُوۤا۟ إِلَى ٱللَّهِ جَمِیعًا أَیُّهَ ٱلۡمُؤۡمِنُونَ لَعَلَّكُمۡ تُفۡلِحُونَ﴾ [النور ٣١]

ختم الأمر بغض البصر = بأمر جميع المؤمنين بالتوبة وفي هذا نكتة ذكرها الشيخ تقي الدين ابن تيمية رحمه الله : وهي كون هذا الداء لا يكاد يُسلم منه والناس فيه بين مقل ومستكثر.

وإن التوبة من الذنب بعد الوقوع فيه سبيل آدم عليه السلام فقد (عصى آدم ربه ثم غوى) (ثم ٱجۡتَبَـٰهُ رَبُّهُۥ فَتَابَ عَلَیۡهِ وَهَدَىٰ).
ومن الفرق الواضح بين أبينا آدم وبين إبليس نعوذ بالله منه = كون ابليس قنط من رحمة الله سبحانه ولم يتب إليه فكان ما عرفتم.

رأى محمد بن المنكدر رجلًا واقفًا مع امرأة يُكلمها فقال: إن الله يراكما سترنا الله وإياكما.
إن المراقبةَ علمُ القلب بقرب الربِّ.

وقد سُئِل الجنيد بما يُستعانُ على غضِّ البصر، قال: بعلمك أن نظر الله إليك أسبق من نظرك إلى ما تنظره.
وكان الإمامُ أحمد يُنشِدُ:
إذا ما خلَوْت الدَّهرَ يومًا فلا تَقُلْ … خَلَوتُ ولكِنْ قُلْ عَلَيَّ رَقِيبُ
ولا تَحْسَبَنَّ الله يَغْفُلُ سَاعةً … ولا أن ما يَخْفَى عَلَيْهِ يَغِيبُ.

اللهم اغفر لنا وتب علينا وأغننا بحلالك عن حرامك وبفضلك عمن سواك سبحانك اللهم وبحمدك اشهد ان لا اله إلا انت استغفرك واتوب اليك.

O young man, Allah is All-Aware of you. He knows your state, for He said in His Book:
"And man was created weak" [Surah An-Nisa: 28].
This verse has been explained to mean that man is weak in matters concerning women. Tawoos said: "When he looks at women, he cannot be patient."

Imam Sufyan Ath-Thawri was asked about this verse: "What is his weakness?" He replied:
"A woman passes by a man and he cannot restrain himself from looking at her, yet he gains nothing from it. What could be weaker than that?"

Saeed ibn Jubayr (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
"Being entrusted with a house of pearls is dearer to me than being entrusted with a beautiful woman."

Hassan ibn Atiyyah (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
"No nation has ever been afflicted except through their women."

The gaze is one of the arrows of Iblees.
Whoever leaves it out of fear of Allah, Allah grants him a sweetness of faith that he finds in his heart.

Looking (at what is forbidden) is prohibited due to the great harm it brings.
The adultery of the eyes leads to drawing near to actual fornication of the private parts.
He who cannot lower his gaze will not be able to guard his chastity.

When desire and lust capture the heart, the enemy (Satan) takes hold of it and torments it,
and the person becomes like:
"A little bird in the hand of a child – the child torments it, while he plays and laughs."

The solution is to block the door of temptation – by lowering the gaze.
An example: a noble scholar once said:
"I was with Sufyan Ath-Thawri (may Allah have mercy on him), and a woman came saying: I want to ask you something."
He said: "Close the door and speak from behind it," fearing the temptation of seeing her.

Allah says:
"Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and guard their private parts. That is purer for them. Indeed, Allah is All-Aware of what they do."
And then He commanded the believing women:
"And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and guard their private parts."
[Surah An-Nur: 30–31]

He concluded these verses by saying:
"And turn to Allah in repentance, all of you, O believers, so that you may be successful."
[Surah An-Nur: 31]

Closing the matter of lowering the gaze with a call to repentance—this, as Shaykh Taqi al-Din Ibn Taymiyyah noted—is because this illness rarely leaves anyone untouched. People vary: some more involved, some less.

Repentance after falling into sin is the way of our father Adam (peace be upon him):
"Adam disobeyed his Lord and so went astray, then His Lord chose him, turned to him in forgiveness, and guided him."
[Surah Ta-Ha: 121–122]

The key difference between Adam and Iblis—may Allah protect us from him—is that Iblis despaired of Allah’s mercy and didn’t repent. The result is known.

Muhammad ibn al-Munkadir saw a man standing with a woman, speaking to her.
He said: "Indeed, Allah sees both of you. May Allah conceal us and you."

Being conscious that Allah is watching you is the knowledge of the heart of His nearness.

Al-Junayd was asked: "How can one restrain the gaze?"
He answered: "By knowing that Allah’s gaze upon you precedes your gaze upon what you’re looking at."

Imam Ahmad used to recite:
"If ever you’re alone someday, do not say: ‘I am alone’
But say instead: ‘There is a Watcher over me.’
And never think that Allah is unaware for a moment,
Nor that anything hidden from Him will remain concealed."

O Allah, forgive us and accept our repentance.
Make us content with what is lawful and keep us away from what is forbidden,
and enrich us by Your bounty from needing anyone besides You.
Glory be to You, O Allah, and praise. I bear witness there is no god but You.
I seek Your forgiveness and repent to You.